9 months

I guess I’m on a , post every two months kick. Seriously though the amount of stuff that has happened in the past two months is crazy. We got crawling almost down and some teeth are starting to poke through!

We got to meet Mickey!

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His monthly photo!

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St. Patrick’s day celebration!

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Got to meet a random person in a bunny costume for bunny day!

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Likes to go on hikes and be on new adventures.

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It’s been a misson so far, I’m not sugar coating shit. The amount of frustration is immense but coming home everyday and seeing his smile when I walk in the door is amazing. I’m trying to enjoy that shit for as long as possible until he’s too cool for it. The wife is still at home taking care of the little guy which I like BUT….it’s fucking rough trying to live a non miserable life and paying bills. Granted we have it hella good and live with her mom so we dont pay rent , I know you’re like “fuck this guy he has no idea, fucking douche bag they’re bigger problems” still the debt that we have and the other bills do add up. Trying to live a “normal” life and still go out and do stuff is not the business. What happened to just one person in the family having a job and being able to support a family of 4? How to single parents do it? You’re just working for child careand that’s it basically.  Wtf ?!  Oh well other than this update mouch else is going on. Until then have fun!

7 months old

This kid has grown so fast its remarkable. The things he is starting to do, the new sounds and noises he makes. The best part of my day is coming home and seeing his smile when i walk in the room.

I’m still trying to live that stay at home dad life but the wife hasn’t found anytbing remotely close to what we need for me to quit my job.

Cassius is still able to sleep through the night with little to no help from us. We lay him down and boom he’s out.

Normal schedule for me is now waking up to go to the gym , come home ,change , get ready for work, come home from work, feed him, take a nap, wake up feed him again, play and then bath time and then bed time again. Pretty easy peasy. 

We’re on to more solid foods which is a pain in the ass. You thought feeding with a bottle took forever feedings have taken longer so he can eat more and get the while swallowing and eating from a spoon thing down. Its funny but still the time it takes to do everything
sucks ass.

I’ve really been meaning to do a lot more product reviews but it hasn’t been going so well lately on the home front, the house is getting redone because we had a leak and they found asbestos. So for the past month and a half we’ve been living in a hotel. Did you hear me… a hotel in a two bedroom suite with a baby, a wife,  a dog and a mother-in-law. If i didn’t believe in hell before I sure do now.

For now have fun yall.

Month 5

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We took Cassius to Disneyland last week. It wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be. I thought it was going to be a bunch of crying and not being able to enjoy shit throughout the day. I was scared our 500 dollar tickets were going to go to waste on diaper changes and bottle feedings.

Nope.

Didn’t happen.

We went with another couple who also have a newborn kid of 7 months so that made things a lot easier and a lot less hectic.  But still people , Disneyland with a baby is doable and yeah we are one of those people that bring their baby to Disneyland. It doesn’t matter those pictures that you get with them early on will be great to compare later when they are older. So if you have doubts about going just go!

Uhh where’s mom?

I took my son out for our first dad and son days,  where it was just me and him all day. I can tell you the looks I get from people thinking I don’t know what I’m doing or they’re expecting for my wife to be close by, is crazy.  We went to breakfast and two people asked where momma was .. “uhh at home . . ” yes the baby is 4 months old but still it doesn’t mean “momma” has to be around 24/7.

I’m a strong independent man lol it’s a baby people , it’s not like he’s a nuclear bomb and everyone is curious if I’m going to drop it or not.

It’s been a while.

12106030_1671798496412069_1315431902_nHalloween 2015, Astronaut, Rocket-ship, and Jupiter12093753_1626636110931717_1424946431_nPumpkin patch

IMG_20151108_212611My buddy’s wedding.

IMG_20151028_200128Birthday celebration

20151110_15071920151110_124826Roadtrippin.

As you can tell we’ve had a few adventures since I last updated this. I’ve had a birthday, we took Cassius to a pumpkin patch, we went to a wedding which I was a grooms man in, and we got to do an awesome first family costume thing for Halloween. Cassius has been doing great so far! Still only wakes up about once in the night, and then again at 430/5am. Which isn’t bad, the wife gets up for the 1am wake up and I get up for the 430 wake up time since I need to get ready to go and workout and start my day anyways. He actually did really good again on this past roadtrip. We stopped maybe twice to stretch and feed him which makes the trips that much better. Before we just use to go on one tank of gas, stop, fill up, and go again. Now with having him here we’ve actually stopped and taken the time to look at places even if its just for a few mins here and there. It’s one thing I say is a big plus and something I never really thought of until we were driving home. Cassius slept most of the time and only had a few bad bouts where he was really really tired and need his binky right away but other than that it was an A okay trip!

Most people that have a preemie of their own will not go out of the house within the first year. Uhhhh fuck that shit, do you know how boring it is to be at home for just the weekend? No way were going to be cooped up inside for a year. I know, I know, preemies are more prone to getting sick and shit but really Cassius isn’t like most preemies I think. He’s doing great and the change in weather every where we go doesn’t seem to affect him. Now I’m no doctor or anything so don’t go and take your baby out of the NICU or newly let out of the hospital baby out on a roadtrip to some shady location because you want to get out of the house. We still take caution when we are out and don’t let a lot of strangers get to close to him. (Which happens and I didn’t know it until we had a baby. People actually feel comfortable enough to come up to you directly and pinch your kids cheeks. Like who does that ? I don’t know if you washed your hands or you just finished picking your nose WTF??!) So we don’t go dragging our kid in the mud or anything just yet but still we feel we are giving him enough exposure to the outside world where he comes into contact with some germs but not enough to be really scared of.

It’s all up to you and how comfortable you feel on taking your kid out on a roadtrip, but make sure you are prepared for everything, take one of everything at least. A jacket , long pants , socks and beanies for the baby and anything else that you think “Maybe we won’t need this?” No! Fucking take it! Also like I said be prepared for making stops and changing the baby in the car or out in the rest areas , most places don’t have changing tables to that is an adjustment in itself to work around with.

Till next time have fun!

Ren fair

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Took the kid to his first Ren fair here in vegas. Definitely well worth it and can’t wait for this kid to get older so we can all dress up and enjoy it more. He slept the whole time we were there which was a plus because I got to eat my turkey leg in peace lol. He woke up once but just went back to sleep on the walk to the car. Good little family outing, food prices are still fucking high but what can you do?

Change of plans.

Plans hella change everyday for me. Parents that say ,”oh no my kid will go off my schedule, I’m not going to have them rule my life.” Um yeah fucking right !! that doesn’t really happen. Regardless of what schedule you might think you might have for the day it could change from one moment to the next. And sometimes it won’t even be because of the kid.

Take this morning for instance.  I go to the gym at 6am 3 to 4 times a week. Somewhere during the night my wife gave me the baby to ease him to sleep and he just happened to stay in my arms the whole night. I wake up with him cuddled in my arms and I just couldn’t move him. Not because I didn’t want to go to the gym but because I wanted to spend just one more hour with him before I had to start my day. During the week I see him maybe 5 hours a day so taking advantage of some extra time here and there to me is worth it. Plus I go running everyday after work so it’s not like I won’t get in some physical activity in.

The point is you have to be comfortable and okay with things changing day to day. Yes a schedule is nice it provides stability for the family but those moments where it’s out of your hands or you just want an extra hour of bonding time in the morning don’t beat yourself up over it.

First day back to work

Definitely missed the kid. All I could think about all day was what he would be doing at those times I looked at the clock. Couldn’t get out of work fast enough. Really want to work on being a stay at home dad but the wife needs to get a job first that makes at least 25 an hour to cover both our incomes. Also I really want to own my own ice cream truck and have legit 50s uniforms. Tons of wants but not enough funds.

Product review: Our Changing Table from IKEA

THE SNIGLAR from IKEA sniglar-changing-table-white__08177_PE084938_S4sniglar-changing-table-white__0255227_PE399559_S4

Yeah its nothing fancy but seriously if you are on a budget and you need a good sturdy table in a room with not much space this was one of the best ones that we found. Its made of solid beech and has a fiberboard as the shelves. The cost was a whole $34.99 and it didn’t even take that much time to assemble, was really easy too actually a little too easy but it has held up so far. We didn’t want to go for a big clunky dresser with a changing top attached it would of taken up too much room in his room. People aren’t going to go and say , “OMG did you see that changing table they got , I can’t believe they would change a baby on it!” Fuck those type of people anyways if they are judging you on a fucking changing table. There are plenty of other things people should be focused on other than where you’re changing shit diapers every two hours.

It has a big under shelf for putting diapers and wipes on and anything else you want to put on the ass of your baby. We even got a really great changing pad that fits into from IKEA as well.

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The SKOTSAM from IKEA.

It blows up on the sides and has a thin soft pad to lay the baby on. It makes wiping pee and poop off pretty easy. Not much of a comfy pad but seriously the baby is not going to be sleeping on the fucking thing so no need to go out and buy those 40 dollar plus changing pads. The price for this… $6.99!  There is also and cover that you can buy for 5 bucks! (see below) But I wouldn’t just buy one that baby will poop and pee all over this bitch and you’ll be taking it off every other day and laying another one down in no time. So all in all we spent a total of $47 dollars on a full on changing area FUCK YEAH ! SKÖTSAM Cover IKEA

Going back to work.

For the people out there wondering how much time is enough time off from work to be with your newborn there isn’t enough time out there. I took a week of Paid Time Off when my son was born and because he was in the hospital I went back to work after. I then took an additional three weeks of FMLA (unpaid) to help my wife adjust to life with a newborn at home. It was definitely worth it and I really wish I could spend more time at home with both of them. I really want to be a stay at home dad but right now since the wife hasn’t been working for a while because being on bedrest I have to be the bread winner.

There are some dads out there that I asked on how much time off work they have taken off and the rough amount of time I get is usually a week or so. I think some dads just get bored and want to go to work and not be at home watching mom breastfeed the kid and feel hopeless and not being able to help for those late night feeds. My wife on the other hand tried breastfeeding but she never produced more that an ounce of milk every pump and then the baby would be even hungrier than before. So she just said “fuck this shit I’m tired , he’s hungry. Fuck this” and we went to formula and bottles. He had a hard time latching on because while in NICU she was only able to breastfeed him about two times the whole month and a half he was in there. So most likely he preferred the bottle nipple opposed to the real one. So I was able to feed him late at night and we are able to take shifts throughout the night. Most dads also said that the babies are boring at that stage, I think that’s completely false. It’s the best time for the baby to get use to your smell, your voice, your overall presence and having both parents in the moment with him puts him at ease. I loved spending the afternoons watching a movie with him asleep on my chest and being there when he wakes up from one of his naps and just opens his eyes and stares at me for minutes on end.

Now some people are different, some want to wait for when the baby shows more of a reaction when talked to, to take time off. I’m not here to say you dads out there taking a week off because a baby is boring during the first few months are wrong. Some people may not be able to afford to take a really long periods of time off work because they need a paycheck to come through and have bills to pay and not live with family like me and the wife do. If you can though I do suggest you take the full amount of time off if possible. Yeah your boss might give you a hard time but seriously being for the early stages I believe are just as important. You learn a lot of what the stay at home parent will be going through day to day. You’ll have a bigger appreciation for the little things. You learn not everything will be perfect and messes pile up around the house and you just have to get them done when you can.

Going to back to work for me will be the hardest but I got to keep reminding myself that it’s all for my little family!